I finally was able to get in touch with my cousin in Florida, did landscaping up here in Mass for about 25+ years. He told me to wait until April before I plant anything (due to possible night frost). Start with using a split seeder(over seeder) with a pass in each direction. Water as needed, and use no fertilizer. Hoping that the new seeded lawn will choke out the crab grass and prevent it from taking over the bare spots. I probably will consider trying one of those "safer" crab grass killers from scotts, but not until the new grass has taken effect. I'm gonna keep this thread updated on my progress this year, from spring to fall, hoping to help out anyone in the future with similar problems.
I will probably overseed again in the fall, and aggressively treat the weeds as needed. Report back on your progress and experiments as well.